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Despite this blog's name, we are not exclusively for lesbians. This is a place for anyone (LGBTQ or not) to come ask questions about anything going on in their lives. I'll offer the best advice I can give. Feel free to be anonymous or not! Personal questions or explicit questions are always okay as well. Please read the FAQs before you ask a question! Frequently Asked Questions
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Anonymous asked: I'm in a homosexual relationship I love my fiancé and I'm happy but I can't help and feel that I'm doing something wrong or I'm not totally gay. I had never been with a girl until I was raped in 2012 (by a man and a woman) I'm so confused
Have you thought about going to see a counselor about what happened to you? I’m not saying that it has anything to do with your relationship, but it’s obviously something major that you probably need to deal with. Traumas like that can be extremely pervasive in all aspects of life without you really noticing. That being said, I think it’s okay to feel a little off! Getting married is a huge deal! Sometimes I have moments where I kind of feel the same way, but then I just take a step back and think about it. I can’t imagine being with a man. I think about where my life will be in 10 years and it makes me happy! If you can do the same, I think you’re okay.
Anonymous asked: So I have a massive crush on my best friend of like 1.5 years (the crush has existed for most of that time but it's not why I became friends with her) (we're both 17 y/o girls) and I'm constantly in this state of should I do something or not and I really just kind of need some advice? Like, should I ask her out, how should I ask her out, is it worth the risk of ruining our friendship, stuff like that. I don't know. I just sort of needed to get that out. Thanks.
Only you can say if it’s worth risking your friendship. I don’t generally think of that as a huge concern because if you’re dedicated to the friendship it usually works out. Does she know that you’re into girls? That might make it easier. But if you really want to ask her out, just go for it! The worst thing that can happen is she can say she’s not interested and you can go back to being friends.
Anonymous asked: Hi. Until 3 weeks ago. I identified as a straight female, but now I'm not sure because I really like someone(she's a lesbian) and we are always flirting and "joking" that we are girlfriends. The thing is I don't know if she's just playing along or actually likes me. The other day she told me "Stay with me the whole day" and then my lipstick somehow got on my chin and she rubbed it off. She looks at me with this somewhat tender? expression. She even told me that I'd see her hidden tattoos 1 day?!
Ask her if she’s interested! Or just ask her out. It seems like she might be. If you like her, give it a shot. I don’t think it matters how you identify. Sometimes you’re just attracted to someone. Don’t overthink it too much. Do what makes you happy!
Anonymous asked: I like a girl who's 2 years younger than me and we have never talked. But i like her a lot, she has a ask fm so i asked her how would she prefer someone to confess and she said that she prefers someone to tell her straight up. But we never spoke to each other so i don't know if i should confess to her and if i do how show i do it so i don't freak her out?
Why don’t you just try talking to her first? Go up to her and say hi! Her feelings about someone liking her probably extend beyond just that. I’m sure she’d appreciate someone going to talk to her to say that they’re interested. You could just tell her you’ve always noticed her and wanted to say hi and then see how it goes before you tell her that you like her!
Anonymous asked: Hi. So, I'm kind of not sure about this so I came to ask you. I really like boys and usually don't look at the girls like I look at the boys, but I get really horny while watching lesbian porn. What does this makes me, bi?
Not necessarily. Sometimes what you like watching porn-wise doesn’t really say anything about your sexuality. I think you could be a straight female and enjoy watching lesbian porn. I would base my sexuality more on what I actually feel in real life, but that’s for you to decide!
Anonymous asked: I'm a girl that's only into girls but I can't get any girls. Why?
I don’t know enough to answer this question. How old are you? Where do you live? Are you out? There could be a lot of reasons why you feel like you can’t get any girls, but I’m sure eventually you will find someone!
Anonymous asked: We both really like each other but I told her it would be a while until I was ready to be with her. Not 24 hours later shes dating someone,constantly gushing about them to me. Im crushed,but dont know what to say since I sorta told her to move on...
I don’t think you told her to move on. I think you told her that you weren’t ready. She obviously had the right to start dating someone else, but I can understand why you’d be upset about it. I certainly would be. Maybe you should just tell her that it’s bothering you. She said she liked you and then moved on to someone else, she must understand that that doesn’t feel great! Just be honest about how you feel and maybe take some time away from her to get over it.
Anonymous asked: Hey are you ok?
It makes me so happy that I get messages like this when I disappear! Yes, I am okay, I have just been extremely overwhelmed with grad school and I also got sick this week. I feel bad for being away for so long so I’m going to do my best to get to all the questions I have waiting!
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Anonymous asked: I want to kill myself because I know if I tell my family I'm gay, I won't have a family anymore. I want to be straight.
Do not kill yourself. Killing yourself doesn’t solve anything. You should talk to a counselor or someone in your community that you trust about what you’re feeling. If you really feel like you want to kill yourself you should call a suicide hotline so someone can talk to you right now and get you the help that you need. I think it would be best to calm down a little bit before you start thinking about dealing with this issue.